Who has not tried Tinder? If you say you haven’t, either it is a lie or you are actually missing out an opportunity to meet people.
When Tinder was first launched, I could not help my curiousity but trying out the app. It was once known as a dating app and my first attempt was to check out the market. It was quite interesting back then knowing that I could explore who was available in my area. Dating websites are quite lame to me but how Tinder App works is so easy and simple. Swipe right or left, to be honest, it is one of the best ways to kill the boredom. I had never expected to meet someone from this app, because it is an online platform in the end. When I first had a Tinder Date, I realised that Tinder wasn’t bad after all. Well, the date turned out very well but we remain being friends. I deleted the app shortly after that.
The “D” pic
Beginning of 2015, I took my backpack, travelled to Vietnam and planned a short South East Asia’s trip. The first few days in Hanoi were quite boring since my plan was to visit some relatives there. I re-downloaded Tinder to have something to kill the time. I was surprised how great the community using Tinder in Hanoi and how different it was from Germany and The Netherlands. Most people on Tinder were expats who lived in Hanoi and some were travelling in Vietnam. I got matched with a few but only talked to 2 guys – one was an English teacher based in Hanoi and one was a film-making making his way across Vietnam. Found myself bored and knowing I would be leaving in a few days, I decided to meet up with them (of course separately). I wouldn’t call it a date because we only met for a coffee and talked about our careers. A lot of travel talks were involved, needless to say. I only saw them only once but I actually met one of them again when I was in Hanoi a year later.
It was the day for my departure. I made my way down south of Vietnam then crossed Cambodia. Tinder was still on my phone but I was too busy meeting new people in hostels and on the way so I never touched it once after the last usage. I entered Thailand and settled in Bangkok. May my restless day have brought me to open the Tinder app once again to find people around me. Tindering in Thailand was a different experience because I noticed many strange bio descriptions and people asking for three-some. I was quite shocked and felt not very comfortable using the app there. However, I got matched with someone who had his profile saying that “solo traveller – looking for someone to meet up for drinks” which I found okay enough. We exchanged whatsaap number to chat easier. It was definitely a bad idea because I had not written him so much to know if he was one of those who were on Tinder to find a quick hook-up. An image came and I was more than just astonished from what I was looking at. A man under a shower naked, face was not in the photo. I was not sure either I was shocked by the fact that the guy was so confident to send me a picture of his D or I was confused of if all men on Tinder were like that and wondered what was the point of showing your D to other women (because women are not turned on by seeing your D, mate!).
Got off Tinder the rest of my South East Asia trip since then.
Tinder: Looking for travel mate or sex buddy?
Tinder has changed its settings that you are now able to match with your same sex gender. It is not bad, however, I find the chance of getting match with a girl very low. Many people say that the reason they are on Tinder while travelling is to find people to hang out with or to get matched with locals for the possibility that they will bring you around. Certainly, nothing is wrong with that, and it is quite a good way of using Tinder.
Tindering while travelling could help you find some people to travel with for a short period of time. Even though I have to admit that, we all tend to ‘swipe right’ only we find people who we find interesting and attractive. In our minds, our attempt is to find a travel mate but somewhat we could not deny the attraction we have to the other. I am not pointing my finger to all travellers, this is just based on my experience. So now the question would be: Are you my travel mate or sex buddy? Is there any barrier between two?
A travel partner could be found anywhere. However, once you find your travel partner on Tinder, it turns into a different story. For those who travel for a long period, it is hard to deny the physical need (and of course I am talking about sex). The point of finding someone on Tinder and travel with him/her, it is hard to avoid the physical attraction and sometimes emotions too. I don’t see any reason why not a travel mate be a sex buddy altogether. It is a natural thing for two people having a mutual interest and attraction towards each other, and sex comes along. The most difficult part is to have no string attached because at one point, you two will go separate ways.
It is not wrong to use Tinder while travelling
No one judges you from how you use Tinder and they should not anyway. Either using it for dating or for looking for people in your area, or even for a hook-up, there is no right or wrong. To me, using Tinder has brought me to meet so many cool people who are not just travellers but also expats. Some Tinder dates have turned into great friends. Tinder while travelling is great as long as you know how to use in a right way (depending on your reason to be on Tinder). It does not matter if you find your travel mate on Tinder and he/she turns into your sex partner. Love stories could happen, too.